Aspects of Your 15-Year-Old Self to Recapture
There’s a long list of things that have changed about you since your teenage years. In the midst of growing up there is love, heartbreak, responsibilities, crucial challenges, loads of schoolwork and job work and some fun adventures mixed in as well. Time definitely seems scarce now, while days, weeks and years go by as fast as montage sequences. Friends and family are in and out of your life, whether for short or long periods, and some even forever. All these aspects of growth factor into personal changes, and while being fifteen was at times awkward and a struggle, there are several attributes you had then that are still simmering in you that you should occasionally try to recapture.
At fifteen most girls are not preoccupied with the idea of their age or time. After about the age of 22 most women find themselves relating most of their plans to a certain time frame. This relation to time grows as 22 turns to 25, then 30, then 40 years old. What you may not recognize is that there is an unimaginable amount of possibilities and special moments between those birthdays. Yes, at fifteen you often thought about age 16 and 18 and 21 and maybe 30, but rarely in a somber context. On the contrary, when thinking about the years ahead it was with excitement and anticipation. Then again, these occasions of contemplation were few and far between when you were a teenager, mainly because you were more concerned about the day in front of you, or maybe next week’s test or next month’s movie release or dance. Notice that at that age time did not seem to fly by in a flash but often went by not fast enough.
Not thinking too far ahead too often is one of the key factors to embracing the moment and being able to hold onto it for longer. This allows you to relieve some fears about minor or major changes, encourages you to take chances or even have more fun. When you are free of worry and lost in a moment, that’s when you feel most youthful. As a teen you used to think more about all the things that could go right instead of wrong -whereas today, the balance probably shifts the other way, so reconsider recapturing that innate positivity.
Sure, you should not totally disregard responsibilities the way you could at 15 –especially now that they have multiplied and gained more significance- but know that this should not keep you from pursuing something you really want. Whether it’s simply going to the beach for a few hours or starting your own business. If you really want something, there is a way –you just need to find it, the way you used to when you so badly wanted to have those Blink 182 concert tickets. Keep thoughts pertaining to time concern or, most importantly, your age far from mind. New beginnings, new projects or new additions to a day or week’s schedule should never be completely disregarded because you are “too old for that” or because you “don’t have the time.” Similarly, old hobbies should not be left behind for these reasons either. If your 15-year-old self saw and wanted the opportunities you currently have, she would have probably went for it, so why shouldn’t you? Besides, you probably have more money to spend and you likely don’t have to be telling your parents where you are going.
Remember that inch of rebellion you had as a teen? Reclaim some of it –minus the attitude problem. Currently you are bombarded with society’s concept of what you should be doing at this point in your life or at your age. There is no set timetable or order for when you should have your masters, a career, own a home, get married or start a family of your own – or even that you should have all or any of these things if you don’t want them. At fifteen you may have set some of these hopes, but at the time you probably weren’t stressing over them. Don’t completely ignore these goals if they are in fact a personal desire. However, acknowledge that if you want to be happy in the journey to them you have to rely on your own agenda and not base it on that of others. In between that time, take advantage of each day. Take small steps every day to getting you where you want, but do them on your terms.
There was no definition of having your life in order when you were a teen, and there isn’t one for you now either. Time will not fly by so fast when you are able to grasp on to it and not consistently live thinking about all the consequences or solely in the future. The feeling that time is on your side –which resonated in you at fifteen-could result in one of your most freeing experiences.