Four Ways to take Control in the Bedroom

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You may not want to mess up a routine when it gets the job done. However, if you apply this logic to your sex life, you risk it becoming dull. There is no satisfaction for both parties involved if the sex begins to feel like a routine. So how do you fix this? Simple really, you start by changing who goes on top. There is no need to feel shy about taking control in the bedroom, here are sure fire ways to make you feel powerful, confident and in control in the bedroom.

1. Wear lingerie

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The first step to being confident is to feel confident, and nothing says sexy then wearing lingerie. Now you do not need to wear an expensive corset, just buy a sexy bra and matching panties and you will feel seductive. Furthermore, you will feel like showing your significant other.

2. Set the mood

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Light some candles, dim the lights, and there will be no mistaking the message you are conveying. You do not need to wait for your partner to make a move, by making small adjustments to a room; you can completely change the ambiance. When you change the ambiance, moods will change as well.

3. Be spontaneous

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With all of these tips, make sure you make it a surprise. If your partner knows what you are planning, they will be excited and happy with the effort you put in, but it can make you feel a bit defeated. You do not want to feel like you have to second guess yourself to live up to expectations. So, be sexy and secretive and then let the fantasies play out.

4. Make demands

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You have to be assertive in order to take control in the bedroom. Do not feel shy about telling your partner what you want. Let them know how you want to be touched, you can even show them how. When you become active during, and the moments leading up to sex, your partner will feel more appreciated and more willing to meet your demands. When you tell him or her what you want it will make them feel confident when they deliver.

Originally from Paterson, NJ, I recently graduated from Seton Hall University with my B.A in English. I will be starting my M.A program in Literature at Seton Hall University in spring 2015. I love Pinterest, Photoshop, and writing fictional short stories about characters who are trying to establish a sense of individuality while in relationships. Ready to momentarily stray from fiction, I am motivated to write about topics that are important to women.

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