15 Ways to Amp Up Your Flirt Game
1. Smiling Helps: Smiling makes you look friendly and approachable. People love to get a dosage of sunshine in their day. If you present yourself in this positive light, people are geared towards thinking of you in that positive way.
2. Naturally, Be Yourself: Acting natural means being calm and collected when conversing. You are not talking too fast, jumping from topic to topic. You allow silences to go on, yet it a comfortable manner. In this fashion, you can suggest doing an activity together. Not necessarily as a date but something to become more comfortable around each other. This will show that you are a reasonable, and fun person.
3. Communicate with Eyes: When talking, people tend to look all over the place. Yet when you hold consistent eye contact with a person they are more likely to feel connected towards you. This does not mean to be a creep and stare unblinkingly into their soul. Just while they are talking, every so often, consistently hold eye contact. You can blink, and also look away at any time.
4. Light and Appropriate Touch: Touching forms a connective bond between us humans. The more touch, the more our barriers towards one another are broken. We become more comfortable and relaxed with that person. The touch should be smooth and suave while doing this. A moment of hesitation while trying to act on touch is, at the very least, awkward. Be simple and casual about it. A brush of hands, a simple shoulder pat. If you and the person are comfortable, suggest a friendly hug.
5. Confidence is Attractive: Most people gravitate towards those who are confident. They present security and stability. Being humans, however, we are all not extremely confident and or comfortable with ourselves. Instead of magnifying your flaws, magnify your good qualities. Lead conversation towards topics you know about. This will make you appear confident because you know what you are talking about. Confidence can be a difficult thing to master. Yet one surefire guideline to live by makes it slightly easier to accomplish. Fake it until you make it.
6. Keep it Interesting: Casually make your crush aware that you have options. This just makes you appear more valuable and viable. After all, you are pretty great. You do not have to do this in an unfriendly way. Just naturally and casually mention how you have a life outside of them. The person will realize that you are unique and others are attracted to you. This can make them really look at you as a serious, probable option.
7. The Name: If you make the effort to know the person’s name they might see that as care towards them. This will also show that, when they are talking, you are actively listening and learning. You are dedicating your time towards them. This makes them feel flattered, therefor maybe putting you in their favor.
8. Learn a Little: Along with listening comes learning. Pick up and remember topics or key details about that person. They will see that you are genuinely trying to be involved in their life. This is also an opportunity to use the technique of the inside joke. This can lead to a special little thing just you guys are in on. An inside joke can also be a great way to get more conversations started with that person due to the previous connection made.
9. Switch Off: People love talking about themselves. Each person is fascinating and fun in their own way. Allow the other person time and topics to talk about themselves. Also, do this for yourself. Give them an opportunity to learn about you as well. Just keep shifting back and forth so one person does not rule the conversation.
10. Keep it Casual: When conversing you do not have to spill out your entire life story. Add an air of mystery to yourself by making them probe the conversation. This will also allow your crush the opportunity to lead the conversation. If they want to know more, they will ask. Otherwise, the choice is theirs as to where the conversation leads. That is okay as well, because either way, you are still conversing.
11. More Than Words: You do not only communicate through words. Your body language also sends off secret signals in which people interpret. Body language is not something to think too hard about. Make yourself appear approachable and friendly by smiling or not crossing your arms. You can simply show someone you are interested in them by turning your body to face them. This just signifies that you are actively engaged in conversing with them.
12. Genuinely Compliment: If you like something about your crush, say so. Honest compliments are one of the most beautiful things. Find a way to make it meaningful. This will show that you are thoughtful, which could also gain you more likability points. So instead of just saying “you always look nice”, develop it further. “You look very beautiful/handsome in that outfit. Come to think of it, you seem to always look nice.”
13. Don’t Overdue It: This goes for interactions between you and your crush. Before going on an outing together, get to know one another. Even if you do dive head first into going on a date, simplicity is best. Try an engaging activity that involves attention. This will give you something to talk about afterward, which gives you a connection. The conversation can naturally evolve from there. This means that you do not have to fish around for topics and awkward silences can be kept to a minimum.
14. Go for It: If you feel that you are ready to go on a date, then do. If you feel that you two know each other adequately enough then go for it. You both can discuss what you would like to do. Also, you can exchange numbers if you have not already. If they say they are not interested, then this gives you their answer. You then can know to pursue others.
15. Sometimes It’s a No: Sometimes people are genuinely not attracted to you. And that is okay! There are so many fascinating people in the world. Do not get hung up just because one of them said no to you. Plus, you never know. Maybe they are just in a weird place in life. Perhaps one day they may take you up on the offer. Flirting is a way to gauge the waters and to predict what might happen.
Flirting is not everyone’s natural gift. Everyone is awkward and weird at some point. Do not apply an extreme amount of seriousness to yourself while flirting. It is a difficult human thing to get a hold on. Yet do remember to keep a positive, open mind.
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