You’d be very surprised at how outsiders can see what you really think about yourself, without you having to say a single word. The unconscious outward portrayal that you give others is usually a direct relation to your inward feelings and views of yourself. You might be exhibiting some of the following to others around you, giving a red flag to about how low you think of yourself without even realizing it.
If you don’t dress well or even try to, most people can be pretty receptive to the fact that your low confidence level is hiding underneath all that mess. Many therapists tell their patients that on the days you feel the worst, try to dress your best. Even though you’re not feeling very good about yourself, putting in the effort to look nice the second you wake up can set the tone for the rest of your day. Wearing something that you think looks pretty will make you feel pretty. Getting into the habit of doing this daily can help increase confidence levels greatly with such a small, simple change.
Poor hygiene is also a huge giveaway to outsiders that you have low self-esteem. You might think you look “okay”, but most people can pick up on poor hygiene. Straggly, greasy hair, worn in shirts that haven’t been cleaned in weeks, and let’s not mention that odor, are totally noticeable to outsiders, despite the fact that you think you’ve covered your tracks. Always be sure to bathe, do laundry, brush your teeth, and change your clothes regularly.
Bad posture and non-receptive behaviors are the most telling signs of how a person feels inwardly. Hunched shoulders and slow movements practically shout to others “I have no confidence”, showing discomfort and giving the impression that you would love to disappear. Practice sitting straight, smiling, giving eye contact, and being receptive to others. Make your movements strong. This exudes confidence to others, even if you’re having a really bad day.
