First dates can be the make or break of a relationship. It’s the foundation, the first step in either a good direction or a crash and burn moment. Take into consideration that the way you act and approach topics can either make him stay or make him run. Here are 5 first date don’ts to keep in mind the next time Mr. Perfect asks you out.
1. Meet the Family
On a first date, you do not take your date to meet your family. That is a huge No No. The purpose of a first date is to get a feel if there is potential for a relationship with the person. Bringing them to meet your parents, children, siblings, or any one of your bloodline may raise a red flags. You don’t even know this person that well so you have to get to know them on your terms before introducing them to your family. You may scare them away.
2. Politics and Past Relationships
Politics and relationships of the past are mood killers. No one wants to go on a first date and hear the other person babbling about their ex. Neither does anyone want to discuss personal political views on President Obama and if he is or is not an effective President on a first date. Stay far away from those topics until at least the 3rd date.
3. Messing with your phone
It’s so rude to be on a date to get to know someone, when all you have been doing is tweeting, posting selfies on Instagram, texting, and or talking on the phone. Don’t even have your phone out during your date. They may take offense to your lack of attention and will surely turn them off to furthering what you thought you had in terms of a relationship.
4. Chivalry
Chivalry is far from being dead. It is just in a little nap right now. With that being said, the gentleman should be pulling out the woman’s chair and opening her doors. When walking down the street, he should be on the outer part of the sidewalk, closer to the street. First dates are the time to pull out of your tickets and impress one another. If you are just doing the bare minimum or have mediocre manners, don’t expect a call back.
5. Making everything about you
You are talking so much about yourself that your date has not been able to get a word in. Yes, they want to get to know you but you have to be willing to learn about them too. Restrict your egocentrism and let someone else talk for a change.
