It happens to all of us, we lay down in our beds with the full intention to go to sleep, but then an arm reaches over us, pulls us in, followed by kisses and whispers of sweet nothings. Unfortunately, we can only think of one thing to say: I am not in the mood. Unfortunately a reaction such as this can spark tension between you and your partner. So how do you tell your significant other that you are really not in the mood without them feeling like a loser? Presented, are a list of suggestions you can take in order to let them down gently, but not hurt their feelings.
1. Find a sexy or fun alternative
You can please your partner without having sex. Perhaps they are in need of a full body massage, complete with a happy ending? Maybe you can cuddle, watch a movie, or play video games—anything to distract their mind from sex. Once they are focusing on another activity, you both won’t go to bed unsatisfied.