Believe it or not, the kissing part isn’t too hard, once you get the hang of it. It’s figuring out when to go in for the kiss that can be tricky. It’s not fully something that can be explained, but it’s something in the air – a vibe you feel. This “signal” of sorts can be detected in playful hand gestures or captivating eye movements. It’s one of those things where you “just know”.
Once you’ve figured out the “signal”, make sure your lips are slightly moist and ideal for optimum smooching. They need to be smooth and inviting – no one wants to make out with a rug. Drink water to keep them hydrated, or use chapstick. But try not to smother it on your lips (most guys HATE that stuff on their lips, especially if it has an artificial flavor).
Also, make sure that your breath is fresh. Since your mouth will be open, make sure it’s not some funky odor or weird taste, or you will never be kissed by this person ever again! Avoid foods with lingering tastes (like garlic) and keep your teeth hygienic (i.e. floss – no one wants to catch your crumbs). Mints or gum are also always good to keep handy.
Now that you’re prepared, make eye contact. Make sure that the other person can see what you are trying to say in your eyes. If you’re feeling extra bold, slowly switch gazes to their lips and then back to their eyes, but DON’T be creepy about it. This needs to be subtle and simple.
Slowly smiling, move in towards this person, and make your move. Make sure, however, that you’re getting responses back. If you’re misreading how responsive someone is being (if at all), it could lead to rejection, so be cautious, and make sure that you are reading the other person properly.
As you lean in, tilt your head slightly in a way that locks your mouth with your partners, so as to avoid a head on collision! Closing your eyes, open your mouth slowly, and slip your tongue over the lower lip. If your partner is truly interested, they will reciprocate. This is a way to test the waters, and get a feeling for the idea of the kiss. Try this first and if it leads to full on making out – well, that just comes naturally. It’s a rather natural action, but is more instinctive, and based on the mood of the moment and the type of partner you’re with. Don’t be afraid to experiment, but also, do not come on too strongly. Let the moment bloom, and don’t rush into it!
