Comfort is something that blindsides us all. Especially when it comes to relationships. When we invested a lot of time into a person, we’re not usually too eager to give that up. When you know someone is always there to experience every mood that you do with you, why would you want that to disappear? It’s a safety net. You know this person inside and out. You know their likes and dislikes, their pet peeves and their interests, and all the weird things you never wanted to know about anyone. And they can say the same about you. The quick act to get back together with an ex can also be an indicator of low self-esteem. Did the ex treat you bad/cheat on you? Do not get back together with them under any circumstances! Cheaters will always be cheaters. Sorry is only a word. People who treat you bad have no respect for you and probably never will.
Have respect for yourself and have the strength to walk away. Believe it or not, there is someone out there who is deserving of all the beauty you encompass and when you find the right person they will have the ability to appreciate that.
A study conducted by family studies and human services professor Amber Venuum at Kansas State University, showed that couples that tend to engage in “cyclical relationships” tend to be less satisfied with their partner. The couple has weak communication, made more decisions that negatively affected the relationship, had lower self-esteem, and higher levels of uncertainty about their future together.
This all makes sense. A good relationship involves strong communication, trust, honesty, respect, and confidence. All relationships require effort, but you have to know when it’s time to move on. If it’s not working, don’t force it. There’s a reason it isn’t working out. Ultimately, you’re the judge. If your friends start giving you hints such as rolling their eyes when you mention the ex’s name, or utter the infamous phrase “i’m thinking of getting back together with him/her” take that into consideration.
