Of course, most people daydream about the time that they are ready to tie the big knot. But how do you know when you’re ready to begin talking about it with that special someone? Well, there is no textbook answer for that, every relationship is different. But here is probably the most important way to know you’re ready for marriage.
First of all, you definitely want to keep the marriage conversation off the table for the first few dates. In fact keep it out of your mind completely for a while! It can not only be a little scary and overwhelming to the other person, but it could cause you to miss out on a great possible relationship with that person if you’re completely focused on marriage. After all, don’t you want to get to know the person first?
Take those times together and get a feel for the person. At some point, idea of having a long-term, committed relationship will creep into conversations, and these are ideas that you may want to consider: Do you enjoy spending time together? Do have real, meaningful conversations with them or even have anything in common? Most importantly, aside from feelings, consider their value system and virtues; their life goals, religious beliefs, interests…are they somewhat similar to yours?
If they’re not, you will most definitely encounter some problems, and it may not be in your best interest to continue on a probable dead end. It’s hard to have a successful and happy relationship, let alone marriage, if you don’t have the same ideals, values, beliefs, and long term goals. Many times these problems can be compromised if you’re truly in love, but truth be told, it’s going to be a very bumpy road if you continue to build a relationship out of opposing beliefs.
On the other hand, if the connection is deep and you’re seeing that this person has similar beliefs and aspirations, then, of course it would be wonderful idea to discuss the possibility of a future together. Always be sensitive to the discussion, and make sure that you’re both dating to reach the same, ultimate goal of marriage.
