The dress was bought, the food options were chosen, and the venue is almost paid for. All you need is the final head count. However, you did not get all of the RSVP’s back by the deadline you have set on the invitation. Not receiving a RSVP back from all of the people you invited can be very frustrating for the bride. So, before you yell and scream at people for being inconsiderate of your finances, look at these tips on what to do when you do not receive any RSVPs.
Theknot.com advocates that “As far as the final head count goes, you should never assume.” If you assume that someone is not coming because they did not send the RSVP back, then you risk them actually showing up and not being accommodated for. On the opposing side, if you assume that they are coming even if they did not confirm their attendance with you, then they may not show up and you paid extra for a plate setting. So it may seem as if you are damned if you do or damned if you don’t.
The only sure fire way to deal with the lack of responses is to “Call to see if they’re coming.” But “if calling is a problem, assume that they are coming, and make sure there’s food and seats for them.” Although it’s great to be prepared, it does hurt in the long run when you think about all of the money you did not have to spend on your wedding. Even though you have planned to have a million dollars for your wedding, you will still feel annoyed if someone did not let you know whether you were coming or not.
Therefore, make those calls! Huffingtonpost.com suggests that you make them “a week before you need to give your numbers to the caterer and/or venue.” They also note that “It’s smart to set the RSVP date a week or two prior to this deadline.”
But of course, you can have loved ones who are very indecisive and will not even give you a straight answer when you call them. But, if someone does roll in on the wedding day who never replied, save any lecture on inconvenience for a later date.” No matter what, all of the decisions have been made, and it’s you and your fiancé’s day. Therefore, relax and enjoy your day with those who have responded to your RSVPs, then take the high road and not even hurt your head scolding those who did not care to give you an update on their attendance.
